Saturday, January 25, 2014

Talking Sex. Is Your Kink Out of Sync? #Erotic #BDSM

I’m reading a really hot BDSM novel where the heroine is discovering her desire for BDSM. The conflict in her relationship is intense. She likes to feel pain, to be spanked. Bondage excites her too. She wants her lover to make her feel the hurt to heighten her senses, break down the barriers, otherwise she doesn't feel the pleasure. Vanilla sex is boring.

Expressing these kinky desires to her lover is a risk, but she’s brave and she decides to tell him what she wants and needs. Her confession turns their relationship into a nightmare.

At first, she’s embarrassed and ashamed by these feelings because her current boyfriend thinks anyone into that stuff is sick. He thinks she has emotional problems. Friends and family, unaware of her troubles, tell her how lucky she is to be with the current guy who happens to be wealthy, but is a total jerk. Ignoring her attempt to reach out to him and express her sexual desires, he bullies her instead. He criticizes her, tells her she’d essentially be nothing without him.

She's working for one of his clients and arranges to get her fired. She doesn't need to work if they’re going to be married, he says. Her friends and family tell her he’s so generous. They don’t get he has taken away her chance to be self-sufficient. He doesn't abuse her physically, his abuse is psychological. Fortunately, this woman meets another man who recognizes her submissive nature and makes her see the confident, beautiful, self-sufficient woman she is.

This Dom helps her explore her sexual desires without guilt or shame. Helps her find a job and a friend of his helps her find a place to live.

When your kink isn’t my kink

This story got me to think about what couples would do when one partner’s sexual interests evolve to a more kinky adventurous side while the other doesn't doesn't change and is even resistant to change. If the couple is just dating, they may not go further into the relationship and end it. But what if the couple has been married for a while?

This is my opinion and I’m not a therapist, but I believe an individual’s sexuality evolves, changes and is shaped over the years. Many factors affect those changes like life experiences, number of lovers, social and cultural backgrounds, environmental, etc.

Loving communication, patience, a sense of humor and perhaps a sense of adventure are characteristics that would benefits couples struggling with a paradigm shift in their sexual relationship.

Try introducing small changes in the bedroom. Go at the pace of the most hesitant one, as long as both are trying to make changes.
If that fails, a good sex therapist is a good idea.

Steel Reflections is the title of a short story accepted by Cleis Press for a BDSM anthology that has a similar theme. The heroine goes to a BDSM club for a session with a Dom, at the suggestion of her boyfriend. She’s a submissive, he’s vanilla. They’re both hoping the session will get these fantasies out of her system. But will they? And what will this do to her relationship?

I plan to write more on this theme since I do like the struggle and conflicts it causes between characters.

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Sunday, January 19, 2014

FREE Demon Sex #eBook #eroticromance #Kindle

Demons need love too! 
Demons, shapeshifters, hunky bad boy demon on a Harley, an immortal and mortal war and a love triangle. If you haven’t had a chance to check out Damned and Desired, you'll find all those things.
FREE Demon Sex? Well, in eBooks. It’s FREE on Amazon, Barns and Noble and a few other vendors from January 20-February 2. Watch for the BookBub ad on the 21st.

There are lots of FREE reads out there, but it you’re looking for an erotic paranormal from Ellora’s Cave, I hope you’ll check this one out. (A blurb and excerpt is below.) Book 2, BTW, Damned and Desired was an EPIC Award finalist and Book 3, Damned and Defiant is one of my favorite books because Dante, the bad boy demon, really meets his match and if he manages NOT to destroy two worlds, he might find true love. 

BLURB for Desert of the DamnedDemons in Exile, Book One. One woman caught in a war between worlds and torn between the love of two men-immortal demon and mortal shapeshifter.
Dante Akanto lures research scientist Amy Weston into the desert to explore the dark side of her passions, pleasuring her in erotic ways she never thought possible with his bizarre sex games. And park ranger Jake Montag has a compelling mysticism and powerful sensuality that's HOT and impossible to resist.But the two men, demon and shapeshifter, are engaged in a supernatural fight between worlds. Amy and her high level of life force energy is the key. Dante's world and his immortality depend on claiming her as his own. The choice Amy makes between the two men will affect both her world and her future.Reader Advisory: Contains  scorching scenes of bondage.

EXCERPT: The smell of smoke drew Amy Weston out of a deep sleep. As her mind fought through her grogginess, she stared at the orange shadows flickering across her stucco walls. The waving colors nearly hypnotized her back to sleep then logic shook her fully awake.
She bolted upright in bed.
From the window on the opposite wall she could see that the fire was outside. A chorus of toads and crickets sang their night song as the desert breeze stirred her sheer curtains. She rubbed sleep from her eyes and inhaled deeply.
Not dreaming.
Hopping out of bed, she rushed to the window and peered out. The glow of a campfire shone behind the saguaro cactus and the mesquite bushes about fifty yards from her house.
The silhouette of a man stood beside the fire. Dante Akando was summoning her.
The digital clock read twelve a.m. The hour. She groaned as if complaining but between her legs the throb of her pussy gave away her desire. Thanks to all the subtle teasing at work and impromptu meetings in Dante’s office, where he’d described raw details of his sex games, her body hummed in anticipation.
He was good—very good—impossible to resist. And he was just what she needed right now—a man who had a taste for adventurous sex and was eager to explore the dark side of her passions. Like her, Dante didn’t want any emotional ties. She had been intrigued by his looks the day she was forced to transfer to the new division of Drake Diagnostic Labs and, since she didn’t plan to stay long, having a brief affair with her boss didn’t seem like a problem. The sexual chemistry had been immediate and bone deep. How could she say no? Someday she would find someone special and consider a more permanent arrangement but for the moment, she didn’t need the hassles.
As much as her body ached for Dante, she should resist him. She had to get up for work early and she was exhausted. Did she dare ignore his campfire call and curl back in her comfortable bed? Her hand reached beneath her silk chemise and slid over her breasts. Her nipples were raw and erect, sensitive to the touch. She squeezed them and imagined Dante’s hands on her then glided her hand down her flat belly, over the curly hair and patted her bud. In moments it was swollen and throbbing, aching for more. Oh, she wanted him all right. Damn him. I’ll never get back to sleep now.
What was the use? The dancing lights on her bedroom walls grew brighter, signaling his impatience.
Tugging the thin chemise over her head, she tossed it on the floor, then yanked the Indian blanket from her bed. Why did he affect her this way? She walked back to the window but there was no sign of him—only the silhouettes of the saguaro cactus with its outstretched arms. Stepping into moccasins, she grabbed a flashlight, then strode out of her house.
The night air was cool and she pulled the red, black and orange blanket tightly around her. Dante had bought it for her at the flea market, not the trading post, so it probably was a Mexican blanket and not Indian but it was beautiful just the same and a thoughtful gift. Still, it was a puzzling gift considering Dante Akando said he was part Navajo. She would’ve thought he would only buy native crafts. As she followed the path off her property onto open land, the light of her flashlight and the campfire lit her way. The sky was dark, millions of brilliant stars glittered like shards of crystal. Stepping around scrub pines and clumps of prickly pear cactus, she approached a large mesquite bush. On the other side of the spiny tree the campfire blazed.
Another Indian blanket lay beside the fire. Dante was nowhere around. But she knew he had to be close, watching her.
“Dante? I’m here.” She pulled her blanket up to her chin. A breeze swirled around her and under, teasing her moist pussy. She felt a growing heat and moisture between her legs. Where was he? Every nerve simmered with anticipation. “Dante, come on. I’m here. We have to work tomorrow. I can’t stay long.”
She wasn’t afraid of the desert night. He said the fire would keep her safe from the night creatures. Recalling his game of seduction, she dropped her covering and stretched out naked on the blanket, her body raw, exposed, vulnerable.
The flames crackled and sent sprays of sparks into the air. Peering into the dark shadows surrounding the campfire, Amy tried to spot her mysterious lover but saw no sign of him. She was supposed to wait.
As she closed her eyes, a shiver that was a slightly panicked feeling mixed with desire rippled through her body. Ignoring his instructions, she opened her eyes again and scanned the area. Still no Dante.
Only a cool breeze brushed over her skin, tightening her nipples to hard points. As she stared into the fire, her vision blurred. How long had she been there? She chuckled to herself. What if she fell asleep when Dante returned? How would he react? She suspected his ego wouldn’t handle that well. Was this a test to see how long she’d wait? Well, she wouldn’t wait for much longer. Damn, she forgot her watch. She had no idea how long she’d been out there.
Sighing heavily with impatience, she decided to go against his game and move. She stroked her breasts, drawing circles around her nipple with her fingertip. Maybe she could entice him. Her body sizzled with need, wanting his touch. He had promised to meet her. She wanted him on top of her now. She slid her hand across her breasts and squeezed each mound. Damn him, where was he?
The turpentine scent of the mesquite bushes and pungent earth drifted on the breeze. Her fingers pinched her nipples until they were sensitive and erect, then she slid her hand down across her stomach to her mound. She spread her folds, dipping one finger inside for a moment, then rubbed her bud until it swelled. She sucked in a breath.
“Mmmm. That looks nice,” said a husky voice behind the massive saguaro cactus.

The other two books in the series:
Damned and Desired    Amazon   BN
Damned and Defiant     Amazon   BN

Monday, January 13, 2014

Lynn LaFleur's Hot Bundle Now @EllorasCave

BUNDLES anyone? Ellora's Cave is doing bundles now!! What are they and why are they so HOT? They're the collection of three or more books, sometimes by different authors, and sold at a great discount. This became popular recently with many bundled books hitting the best sellers Amazon lists. Ellora's Cave has started doing this with some of their series books. YAY! Exciting for their authors and readers.

There are so many awesome SERIES at Ellora's Cave and they're selecting a number that will be brought together and sold as a discounted collection. Maybe you read only one book in the series? Here's your chance to get the whole group together when they're released and read the entire series. (And save money)

LAVENDER LACE by Lynn LaFleur (available now) is a collection of three books from her Lavender Lace series:
1. Business and Pleasure
2. A Date with Mr. Wonderful
3. Two Lovers for Molly

Ashlyn, a Celtic goddess in modern-day Seattle, uses her lingerie store along with a touch of paranormal magic to help three friends meet the men of their erotic fantasies.

Buy here:
Amazon    Ellora's Cave  B&N

More Bundles by Lynn LaFleur coming February 3rd:

TAROT CAFE SERIES: Join the Tarot Cafe's owners Leandra Day and Synda Knight as they share their knowledge of the Tarot with those willing to believe in its message to help them find love.

1. Premonition
2. Turning Point
3. Whispered Surrender
4. A Different Path

More Bundles by Lynn LaFleur coming February 24th.

A male escort service in Fort Worth, Texas, owned by the three Cooper siblings, is the backdrop to help them find love.

1. Rent a Stud
2. Michelle's Men
3. Almost Perfection
4. Armed and Delicious

Visit Lynn LaFleur:  Website  Facebook   Twitter

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Being Outed in the #BDSM Lifestyle #Sex

One of the biggest sins in the world of BDSM is being outed whether by someone in the community or out of it. Effects can be detrimental to their job, their vanilla relationships including friends and family, marriage and for child custody.

There are other BDSM sins including not respecting safe words or not using a safe word (unless the scene involves prearranged “consensual nonconsent”), touching persons, objects or toys that do not belong to you. There may of course be exceptions to rules in situations of safety. Not being open and honest about limits and health issues is another.

Outing someone may not be malicious, but by accident.
·         People use screen names on websites like Fetlife and if you address them by their real name you've just outed them.
·         Saying hello to someone in the public vanilla world like at a mall or restaurant. The people they’re with may not know they’re a BDSMer.
·         Tagging people on Facebook or mentioning events on other social networks could link people to a BDSM club, dungeon or munch, in other words…outing them.

As much as I’d like to believe we live in a progressive world of tolerance, understanding and respect, I find more and more we’re still living in modern-day Dark Ages.
I write erotic romance and many of my books have elements of BDSM, swinging, ménage and same sex sex. My books are fiction, but people have criticized me for writing these books. (Not the writing, the content--okay, the writing sometimes too J). I certainly don’t expect everyone to like my dark and sexy taste in romance fiction.
Along the same line, there are certain movies and music I don’t care for. Instead of condemning others for their eclectic tastes because they’re “different” than mine, I turn the channel or tune into a different music station. And if there are books I don’t like…egads…I don’t read them. Thank goodness we all have that right to choose.
In my latest book, SUMMER SINS, outing is only one of many sins, or mistakes, the couple in the story makes. Two very nice and good people may have legitimate reasons for making wrong decisions, but the consequences are severe.
*If you read Summer Sins, see how many sins this couple commits and what they need to do to overcome their errors. Is there anyway for them to have prevented their dilemma in the first place?

A very BIG sin in my opinion: Individuals who make the mistake of measuring others by their own beliefs and understandings.

Summer Sins available at: Ellora's Cave  Amazon B&N